Fear

So you will need to be patient with me over the next few weeks/months as after every liberty shoot I realise something new about myself and learn things that inspire how I look at the world and how I can improve and grow myself. The best way for me to say this and for it to register is to write it down. So you may see a few blogs over the next few weeks, or you might not, this might be the only thing I took away!

During our circle of trust, the amazing Jen said something that at the time didn’t really mean anything to me, but over the past few days it’s started to…….

Those who fear something the most are the ones who should do it the most.

Initially, I thought I didn’t fear anything and I am quite happy to give anything a go. Well that is a big fat lie. As I write this, I can think of at least 3 things that I fear doing…..

1. Going to a group  class at the gym

2. Travelling to Asia (backpacking)

3. Skydiving

So you might be reading those and thinking really? Is that all you fear? No, it’s not all I fear – there is so much more I fear, but those things are all personal to me and my journey of improving my confidence and feeling secure in myself and who I am as a person. Those are things that I want to work on and continue to work on privately, because we don’t have to share everything you know!

So thinking about those wise words in the circle of trust and the fact that this is the last year of my 20’s, I feel like I need to own it and not let fear win. If I continue to let fear win, then how to expect to be able to grow and improve myself in other areas? I won’t, because this will always be in the back of my mind and I will always think that I can’t do it, when in fact as one of my Aunties has always told me….

There is no such word as can’t.

So, I sat Matt down and told him that I want to conquer some of these fears that I have and I want to experience something new and do things outside of my comfort zone.

Matt has always wanted to go to Asia, predominately Thailand or Vietnam but I have always been so reluctant because I dont want to back pack. If I am on holiday I want 1 place as our base and then explore from there. I am fearful that I will get lost or there wont be anywhere to stay if we have nothing booked. But where is the adventure in playing safe? So this weekend we are doing some researching! I’m not sure what we are going to do, but I am thinking potentially for us to stay in hostels to make it cheap and affordable. It is totally out of my comfort zone BUT that is when life starts isn’t it? The more I have been looking at both countries the more the thought of an adventure starts to get appealing – I had never thought of going to some of the places we have been but they have ended up being some the BEST places I have been too!

Next, is Skydiving – why would anyone want to chuck themselves out of a plane? Because of the adrenaline and the views and just the fact that you can say you DID IT! I brought Matt a skydive a few years ago and he loved it and has always joked that he would buy me one and I have always said I would never do it. Then when i told him about this he told me he brought me one for Christmas!! What am I so afraid of? I am not scared of heights, I enjoy flying, I like nice views and I have conquered a zip wire in Mexico which was 45 metres above ground and so so so scary, but I did it. So with that in mind, I am going to book it and do it BUT with a twist (although Matt thinks I should just do it for me!). I am going to do it for charity, so other people benefit from my experience too. I have thought long and hard about what charity I want to raise funds for and I have decided to do it for Cancer Research.  There are a lot of reasons why this charity was my front runner that I won’t go into, but the fact that more people are surviving cancer than dying because of it now just proves how important that research is. I will share the link in another post!

Lastly, one I need to conquer on my own. Group classes at the gym. I enjoy the gym when I go, I have a little routine but in reality its not doing anything for me and I know people rave about group classes so I want to do it. Why aren’t I? Because I worry about how unfit I am, I dont want to be the one at the back that is sweating like a loon and cant keep up. I want to go into a class and do it with ease. In reality that will never happen, I need to suck it up and do it – stop making excuses and just own it. I know once I have done it I will enjoy it and want to go back. Its just plucking up that courage. This is what i fear the most. So going by Jen’s advice, this I what I need to do more than the other 2. I have been looking at the gym classes and I have decided I am going to give Zumba a go on a Sunday. I might not like it and I might never go again…..on the flip side I might LOVE it and then go every week and this may just be the kick start to an incredible weight loss journey!

So…..there you have it. I am branching out of my comfort zone all thanks to a little bit of confidence from a photo shoot. How insane is that! 

Love

Emma xx

Advertisements

Out Of My Comfort Zone!

So a few weeks ago Matt told me that he had booked for us to go to Go Ape on Easter Sunday, I was quite apprehensive at first not because of the heights involved but because of my weight and how lumpy I would look in a harness and how much the zip wire would dip when I went down there! Matt reassured me and said I would be fine, my friend and fellow blogger Heather also said I would have a great time and that there was nothing to worry about…..

When we woke up Easter Sunday the rain was just pouring out the sky and my first thought was

I’m going to get soaked!

I have no waterproof jacket so had to borrow my brothers and borrowed one of his old hoodies too as there was no way I was going to get a Victorias Secret Hoodie ruined!

20140423-182017.jpg

We headed off to the forest and the rain slowly started to ease up – headed off to the cabin and was told we were a bit early and to talk a walk around….as we did a massive clap of thunder and bolt of lightening struck and we were told that they were closing for 1/2hr to see if anything came off the storm. We headed over to the cafe and had a hot chocolate and some cake. Luckily the storm didn’t develop and we were able to get going!

20140423-183812.jpg

We got our harnesses on and I have to say it was quite uncomfortable but I persevered and went through the training they give you. We then headed off on our to start our crazy tree top adventure!

I have to say that whilst I really enjoyed myself I really had to fight to find some inner strength to get through some parts! The worst bit for me was the cargo nets – you have to literally jump from a high platform into a net and climb up the net onto another platform! Now I was still achey from pole dancing and I have realised I have NO upper body strength at all to pull myself up!

20140423-182225.jpg

20140423-182247.jpg

20140423-182240.jpg

One of my favourite bits was the zip wire, all my worries banished away when I realised the line wouldn’t dip & when we had finished I wanted to go back just to do the zip wire – even if jumping off the ledge is the scariest thing in the world!

Overall I really enjoyed my experience of go ape & would definately do it again!

20140423-183618.jpg