Body Image!

Recently matt an I have found ourselves watching music channels and listening to music we grew up listening to…..dont get me wrong it can be very varied.

But tonight I was sat watching the Janet Jackson all for you video tonight thinking christ….she is thin there! Then I tried to remember back to when I first saw the video and I cant recall thinking anything about her weight, just how much I loved the track. Then we had a bit of the spice girls and the same thing happened…..

Favourite Janet Jackson Song

I am really struggling to comprehend how and when my brian got turned to mush and my first thought when listening to music has gone from thinking about the music to thinking about how thay person or group looks?! 

Why is that acceptable? Who cares how small or big someone is if they have a talent so great they have managed to rack up number one singles and albums or even smashing box office records?! 

I tell you where it came from. The media. It feeds us all postive and negative crap everyday. On one page it will be telling us to embrace our natural physiche and in the other it will be a pictures of up and coming trends NONE of which are regular sized women all smaller framed ladies. Then they have the audacity to praise companies who have “real” women representing thier brands!!! 

Aaaaaahhhhh!!!


Since when has it become acceptable to judge someone on their size? Why do advertisers and designers favour the slender frame? Surely they want to appeal to all women and promote a healthy body image to all women?! 
Do not even get me started on what this attitude must be doing to younger generations. 

A while ago I made decision to try really hard not to comment or judge people on thier weight, how they dress or how they look as is none of my business if someone has put on 2 stone in 2 months BUT I will praise someone if I know they are actively trying to amend thier appearance because they are unhappy. I would love to live in a world where we build each other, praise each other and accept people for who they are not how they look. 


So I ask of you, when you next turn to someone and go to say ooh she has put on weight or what is she wearing. Dont. You dont what that person is going through or if those jeans are the next size down from the ones they were in last week.

And for gods sake do not encourage our youngsters especially our girls to focus on how they look! Congratulate them for other things. Dont teach them the only way to get compliments is by how you look and what you wear. 

So please! Next time you start to judge others on their appearance, consider how you would feel if someone said the same things about you, your sister, your mother, your aunt, your cousin or even your daughter.

Emma x

Social Media

So, with the blog back up and running and my creative juices flowing, I want you all to have somewhere to connect with me!

If you take a look at the right hand side of the screen, you will see links to my Instagram and Facebook where you can keep up to date with all things going on!

On Facebok all my blog posts get shared there, so unless you hit the follow button (also on the right hand side), you will be the first ones to know about new content!

At the moment I am taking a break from Instagram, so nothing will be going on there for a while. I need to take some time to get my head in check and appreciate what I have and learn to not feel jealous and bitter about what other people have got – people that I don’t even know!

I love and hate Social Media so much at the moment, I love being able to share things with friends and family but I hate that it is creating such an untrue culture. For people that struggle with self confidence and self love Social Media is a big issue especially when you start to compare yourself to others. That is the reason why I removed myself from Twitter at the beginning of the year, I don’t miss it and I dont think I will be returning to Twitter either. However, I enjoy taking photo’s so I will go back to Instagram……eventually.

So, why not hit the follow button on Instagram and Facebook and let me know that you like reading my blog!

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Love

Emma

xxxx

Falling Back In Love

DON’T PANIC…..I Repeat DON’T PANIC! Matt & I have not fallen out of love…..this blog isn’t about us!

A couple of years ago I made the decision to move to blogger and continue my blogging days on that platform. However no matter how much I tried I just didn’t like the look of it, I couldn’t upload posts via the app and I had to use a 2nd platform to share on social media. Although I would tell people my creative juices weren’t flowing and I slowly stopped writing. Looking back it was because I just didn’t like what I was producing and hadn’t fallen in love with the end project.

A couple of weeks ago a close friend of mine was searching for my posts on San Francisco and I had to make them public again on this blog. I found myself looking at the blog visually and getting lost reading old posts and it hit me. I wanted to write again, but I wanted to write HERE.

So, my past few weeks have been spent transferring posts from blogger to here and giving this a bit of a refresher. I loved my old template, but I have fallen in love with this new one and I just feel that its more me. For so long I have felt influenced by the blogging/vlogging world and trying to catch up. It has caused me alot of upset and anxiety when I have felt left behind or ungrateful for the amazing things that I have. Hindsight is a wonderful thing and looking back I shouldn’t have moved, I should have stayed put HERE, where I feel safe expressing myself and actually like the end product of what I am producing.

Its mad to think that just the right look and platform can inspire a person so much. My mind has been buzzing over the past few days and I have so many ideas of what i want to share with you. Now that I am feeling happier with my writing space and don’t care (ok I do still a little bit and I am working on it) about keeping up with the jones’, I know that my writing is going to go from strength to strength and I just hope that you will continue to read my story.

However, in the mean time, take a look around read through the 200+ posts i have written since 2013 and let me know what you like reading! For those of you that have only been reading since August 2015 – take trip back to earlier posts – there is a lot fun stuff that you missed out on.

But for now, this blogger is back and happier than ever!

Emma

xxx

It’s Ok To Be Normal

On any day of the week, scrolling through any social media feed you will find friends, family, bloggers, vloggers, celebrities and just your general everyday folk claiming just how wonderful their lives are and how “lucky” they are to be going on an expensive trip or having purchased a new luxury fashion item or how much weight they have lost the list is endless. All the time you are scrolling, if you are anything like me you will be sat there thinking “why can’t I have that?” and questioning why your life is so boring and dull.

BUT in reality we are only seeing what they want you see. You never rarely see people posting genuinely about their lives, all the ups and downs. Social media is full of fake lives and its about time that I remember this and stop comparing my normal life to those who only show us the parts they want us to see.

Don’t get me wrong, I have posted things before that may make my life seem to be more perfect than it is and my facebook memories are constant reminder of how much I used to post my whole life for the world to see. Why do we do that? Why do we think that everyone wants to see every part of our life? Because we are all nosey buggers? Ha! Yes we are, but would we miss it if people didn’t share everything? No, probably not.

Today, whilst writing this, I removed my twitter app from my phone. Following bloggers really wasn’t helping my self esteem and I have found it has made me really unappreciative of my life that I have spent so long building with Matt. I am going to be keeping my Instagram, mainly becuase I only following friends, family and companies that I use and I will stick around on Facebook too for the same reasons.

If I keep comparing my “normal”life to their fake lives then I will never appreciate what I have. I have great friends, great family, an awesome boyfriend and after many years of waiting MY OWN HOUSE. That for me, is a massive thing I have wanted for a long time so sod the fakers, I am excited about my new adventure and new chapter in my life!

If I can ask anything of you all. Screw the fakers. Remember that if you stay at home in your PJs all weekend eating cake and drinking prosecco it’s ok!

Love

Emma xx

The River

4th July

Dimples & Daisies announce on their Instagram and Facebook a grand 4th July sale with fantastic offers, disappointed that there was no Liberty Shoots on offer, I messaged the girls on their Instagram page to find out if they will release any more offers including Liberty Shoot and they replied pretty quick asking me to keep an eye on their Facebook site for an offer later that day…..

9pm that evening…..I have sent a text to Jemma asking if she is interested in the offer on the River shoot – Buy One Get One FREE!!!! BARGAIN! She replies saying she is in – I transferred the money and Voila! We are booked in for the River Shoot! With Hayley having stunning photo’s like this come back from her shoot, I cant wait for mine!

How Pretty! 

Love This One! So Natural!

8th July

Over dinner at our local Harvester, we have a chat about how much my excitement is reaching crazy stupid heights and Matt decides to tell me that he has booked a surprise for my Birthday on the date of my River Shoot! To say I was cross but excited about a surprise was a bit of an understatement.
I messaged the girls and they worked some magic and managed to switch us onto another shoot, so we are still full steam ahead for our September River Shoot!

24th July

Visiting the Sky Garden in London, I can’t help but practice my posing – Yes! I am a poser and YES I love it!

Early September

Jemma and I head to our local shopping centre one night after work and hit the sale rails in New Look and manage to get some lovely pieces for the shoot, whilst shopping we pick out bits for each other and we spent time laughing about how all the 90’s fashion is coming back in – dresses over t-shirts?! what is that about! It was so nice to shop with Jemma, its been a long time BUT it just added to whole experience!

27th September

The day of the shoot, I was excited and nervous and didn’t expect to cry or feel the way I did. I naughtily couldnt hold off writing about my experience of my shoot and some of you may have already read all about it, but check out my post here to see how it effected me!

With all that in mind, I honestly felt soo good about myself and so confident afterwards and even now I still have that feeling going now and I love that just getting your photo taken and being surrounded by fellow women building you up can make you feel that good!

12th October

Photo day! Things have been pretty manic for me lately (more about that in a different post) so I haven’t had chance to get nervous. As I drove myself and Jemma over to Holly’s for our viewings my tummy started to get excited and I started to get butterflies. That was until I realised I had forgotten the Pretzel Bites I had promised Holly and a wave of dread came over me that I had let her down, but don’t worry – she will get her stash!

Jemma went first and had the absolute same reaction I did first time round and it was so nice to see her realise just how awesome she is! Holly is the 100% best person to show anyone their photos, she is so positive and has such a good eye and makes you see things about yourself that you cant see.

I have read a lot on the Facebook page that Jen’s style has changed over the last year and I LOVE my corn shoots, so I was a bit concerned what if I didn’t like these ones, but I really did not need to be concerned. They were ALL amazing, but due to body hang ups of my own or not wanting to come away with ones that looked similar I walked away with 10 photos and apart from 2 (due to hating my fat cellulite covered thighs) I love every single one and CANNOT wait to share some of them with you……

If you are in the Hampshire area and looking to do something for yourself OR want to give your partner a way to boost her confidence and let her see what you see in her, contact the girls. I am sooo pleased Hayley got me in touch with them over a year ago, I can’t ever imagine wanting anyone else to take my photo’s now and I will be a member of the Dimples & Daisies Squad forever more!

Love

Emma xxx

Kindness Of A Stranger

I wanted to wait and post about my shoot once I had the photos back and tell you all about how I felt in the lead up and on the day, but today my writing wall was knocked down and I feel that I want to share with you all.
Today my beautiful friend Jemma and I had our River Shoot with Dimples & Daisies, I have been really excited and looking forward to this ever since I booked it. For me it’s all about encouraging my body confidence and feeling good about myself. I have often read on the Facebook page about people being emotional during their shoot and felt disheartened that it didn’t happen to me on my corn shoot, but looking back I was so nervous and reserved I wasn’t really me.
I am not sure what come over me today, but when I was sat in Charlie’s boot getting my make-up done and she asked me a simple question of what don’t I like about me, I replied with my honest answer of my chin/neck. It was a bit red from waxing my “beard” on Sunday so I asked if she could try to do something with that and we got to talking about PCOS. I hope Charlie won’t mind when I share that she told me she also suffers with PCOS, so we shared stories and for some reason I could feel myself welling up. When Charlie was talking to us all a few moments earlier, she made a comment that really stuck with me about how we can talk to our friends and tell them how we feel but sometimes due to how busy their own lives are they don’t really listen and everyone does the same. Recently I have been feeling a bit like that and almost like I have lost my voice. I haven’t, I just don’t know how to be the friend that needs support as I am usually the one giving it. I found myself opening up to Charlie more than I have to anyone that is close to me recently about my future.
I admitted to her and myself that I am scared about moving out and buying a house with Matt, not because it is a big commitment and lots of money, I know I want to spend my life with him so that doesn’t bother me. What does bother me and more than I will care to admit is the chance that one day, he will turn around and say after a few years of trying to conceive that he doesn’t want to carry on with our relationship because I can’t give him babies and how much of a failure I would feel as a woman and as a partner. Admitting to Charlie through broken tears that him saying that is my worst fear I felt a weight off my shoulders, I realise now that I have never said that out loud, not really. 
To have a hug from a stranger and be told that you are not failure and that there is light at the end of the tunnel and that others including herself have conceived even though they have PCOS made me realise that it will be ok; no matter what happens.
So I had my first emotional moment with the Dimples & Daisies team and for some reason I entered that freezing cold river feeling like I was washing away my fears. Unknown to me I started my river journey nervous about my future and scared that 1 day I might lose everything and when I left, I still am a bit nervous, but I am more confident than I as and I know that what is meant to happen is going to happen. My body is an amazing thing that can do anything, I just need to take care of it and look after myself physically and mentally.
As great as our friends our (and I believe mine are the best), sometimes you just need a stranger to give you a hug and tell you it will be ok.
Thank You Charlie!

xxx