You my dear are a planner & an organiser you have over the past 10 years decided you need to have some form of control over everything and have all things planned down to the last minute. The fact that Matt changing his mind at the last minute drives you insane proves this – to be honest how you cope with that I have no idea haha!
But you need to STOP.
All the best things that have happened to you have been unplanned and just happened. Shall we take a look at a few of these?
- Meeting Matt…..we shall just leave it at that
- The House…..planning to move out in 2017……2016 bit your ass with that one!
- Your Job…..only stay there a year? Nearly 10 years later and several promotions your now a manager?
- Your Holidays…..yes they have been planned to some extent, but there is always an element of spontaneity!
- Your Friends……funny how those that you thought would be there till the end aren’t around any more.
I know its become normal for you to plan out every last bit of your life down to a tee AND you will waste hours planning trips that you then get really upset when plans change. Just Stop It.
Start living in the moment, start enjoying day to day more – stop missing things BE PRESENT. Just let life take you on a journey and enjoy the ride. You are missing out on having fun because your constantly worrying about whats happening in the future.
I know its not going to be easy and its a big pattern to change, but you need to do it for your health. Your brain cant keep dealing with all the criticism that you put on yourself. And its CONSTANT. You do not need to compare your body, your beauty, your life, your relationship, your financial situation, your career to anyone else in the world. WHY? Because you are perfect the way you are and you need to accept your flaw, embrace them and just be true to yourself – sod what anyone else is doing that’s their life.
Learn to be GRATEFUL and APPRECIATE everything you have and what you have achieved. Stop wanting more or wanting what others have, the grass is NOT always greener and remember that you only see what people want you to see. Do you post on social media when you have had a crap day or if you cant afford to go on that holiday that you have been hoping for? No, of course you dont, because you only want to share the good stuff with people EVERYONE ELSE IS THE SAME.
So, stop worrying about your holiday next year, what colour your going to pain the hall, when your going to lower the garden, how you want your kitchen to look, what your going to do for your 30th birthday. You have just over 100 days left of 2017, why not just enjoy them?
Spend time with your friends, go on adventures with Matt, cook more, read more, smile more, laugh a lot.
Enjoy the last year of your 20’s.
Just be kind to yourself!