"Settle Down"

I am 27, I have been with my partner for almost 6 1/2 years and we both still live with our retrospective parents. We enjoy holidays abroad and spoiling our nieces and newborn nephew, if we see something we like we will buy it and if cant afford it we will save for it. We are enjoying being in our 20’s with limited responsibilities, carving out a career for ourselves so that we have some stability for our future.

How many others are doing the same? Put your hands up!

Ok so that is more of you than I thought, out of everyone with their hands up get the following questions asked to you at family events or by friends?

  • So when are you two going to settle down?
  • Have you started house hunting yet?
  • Don’t you think its about time you got engaged?
  • Have you thought about babies?
  • What is your 5 year plan?
  • You need to stop going on holidays or you will never move out
  • You wont be able to afford all the things you do when you settle down
OR my ultimate favourite
  • Well if your not living together or engaged by now it can’t be that serious
Ok, so that’s still a lot of hands up, I am glad I am not the only one. Now I am by no means perfect, I have asked those questions to friends and family members but not every time I see them. Any friends I have that aren’t engaged or haven’t moved out I am confident they will tell me when that big milestone in their life comes and likewise I would 100% share that information with my friends and family when I have that information to share! 
For those of you that want to know here are the answers to the questions that we so often get asked that Matt will often walk away and just leave me to deal with it on my own! 

  • So when are you two going to settle down? we are very settled down, we have a comfortable life together and have a plan in place to “settle down” in societies eyes.
  • Have you started house hunting yet? afraid not! we refuse to rent or join in a government scheme where you have to pay back a loan and your mortgage, we are old school so we are saving our arses off!
  • Don’t you think its about time you got engaged? maybe, but that will happen when the time is right for us. 
  • Have you thought about babies? not really – where would it live? plus with my PCOS our baby journey may take longer and be harder than others. So this question is probably never a good topic to start with.
  • What is your 5 year plan? shock horror, we don’t have one & if we did its our plan and if it involves you or needs your input we will share it.
  • You need to stop going on holidays or you will never move out yeah, we probably do. However if we can afford to treat ourselves to a holiday and save for a mortgage at the same time then why not? 
  • You wont be able to afford all the things you do when you settle down really?? I thought there was an endless pot of money available! We are realistic, we know that and that’s fine, but thanks for the heads up.
  • Well if your not living together or engaged by now it can’t be that serious why aren’t we?
With almost 6 1/2 years under our belt we have lasted longer than some people. I have known people including celebrities who have met, married, had babies and divorced in a shorter time than we have been together. We both come from families that are still together, we have an unspoken agreement that if it isn’t working or we aren’t happy that we will talk about it and work it out together.  
Whilst this may seem like a rant post, it isn’t. I love that so many of our family and friends are so interested in our life and want to see us “settle down” and start a family etc, but STOP. Unbeknownst to you guys, its pressure that we don’t need. We are working hard to move out right now and when we have exciting news to share with you then we will 100% share it with you and ask you to join us to get excited for our next milestone. But for now, we are going on holiday in January and we can’t wait to get some winter sun! 
Love
Emma xxx
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