Ladies Night

Saturday night was great fun, our 2nd annual aunties/nieces/cousins/cousin in law/sister in law night out. Just generally the younger female generation of the family on a boozy night out! Our group has grown since this all started many years ago, when we had planned days out in London. However, more recently we have decided to stick to food and drinks – beacuse lets not lie, who doesnt love food and drink!

Our venue of choice was Turtle Bay & Sprinkles in Southampton, however a few of us met up early to hit the Christmas Market before hand! Here is a lovely selection of photo’s of our evening!

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Friendships

A couple of months ago, for those of you that follow my story will know that I attended my 3rd Liberty Shoot (you can read about it here) and loved every second of it.

I didn’t know anyone, so was forced to make conversation with other women and naturally provide support and encouragement, its just what happens on a shoot, you realise that as women we are there to help, guide and nurture each other not tear each other down.

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Anyway, all of the ladies that I met that day were battling their own demons and I can honestly say they all inspired me in their own way. However, I never expected to see or talk to them again, unless it was another shoot.

I posted my pics in our group and spoke about how much I loved them and what I got from the experience on the beach. I was really shocked to then see a friend request come through on Facebook from Charlotte, one of the ladies I had met that day. We exchanged messages for a while, before we decided we were going to meet up, dates changed due to other things going on but we eventually met up earlier in the week.

I was incredibly nervous the whole day, when you meet someone new and form a friendship as an adult its usually through mutual friends or you become friends through work or children etc. its not often that you meet someone randomly and then arrange to meet for a drink.

On the way I was giving myself a bit of a prep talk, not to be boring, remember to ask questions, not talk about myself too much and listen. Be an active listener.

I really didn’t need to worry, we got on really well, chatted for hours and it was just really natural. It didn’t feel forced and I had a really nice evening and came away feeling like I had made a new friend.

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We all go through seasons of our life where friendships change and it can be really easy to feel like you are alone and have no-one around you. However, I promise that if you just take a step back and look around, there will be people around you that are reaching out to you but you just cant see it because your chasing after a friend that isn’t being there for you.

I am not the most outgoing person and I definitely dont like to be the centre of attention and would prefer to be the care giver, the person that people come to with their problems rather than burden them with mine.

BUT I have learnt more recently that, those behaviours aren’t healthy and that isn’t allowing me to get fulfillment from my friendships. I need people to be there for me too, but I dont allow that. So I am actively trying to change that and whilst it may be difficult for me to open up, I know that it will be ok and I will feel happier.

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I guess what I am trying to say is, yes its weird making new friends as adults, but people come into our lives for a reason. I am not sure what the reason is that Charlotte & I have crossed paths and often you never find out, but I am looking forward to a new friendship and all the fun times that brings!

Emma xxx

Auntie

To these 3 little people, that is my name Auntie Emma.

Sometimes, I am not their favourite and they may like Uncle Matt more than me, but on the days when I am their favourite my heart swells.

When I met Matt back in 2009, I didn’t know that not only would he become the most important person to me, but that he would bring into my world his first niece. I don’t remember the first time I met Ruby, but I do remember when I became Auntie Emma.

I was at a family baby shower with my sister-in-law (Naomi) and Ruby, along with others, when Naomi referred to me as Auntie Emma, shocked I can remember saying something like ‘Really?!’ and Naomi reassuring me and reminding me that I have been in her life for almost a year now, so definitely Auntie Emma.

That was it, I was Auntie Emma.

So when Phoebe came along a couple of years later and Spud joined the gang a couple of years after that, the family grew and so did the people that called me Auntie.

Matt & I have had so much fun with those 3 kiddo’s already and I cannot wait to continue to see them grow into such smart, gorgeous young adults in years to come. Being an Auntie and Uncle is such a great role to be, you get to have all the fun and laughter without the seriousness of parenting. We have had some great days out with them and great days in, now we have our own place the girls have been over to sleep and although the early mornings are tough its nice to have that time with them and for them to know they have a safe place here.

I love that they get excited when I surprise them and pick them up from school. I love that they want to read to me. I love that we help them do their homework. I love that they want to hold my hand. I love that they are happy to pose for pictures with me. I love that they know where the sweetie cupboard is & that they have their own cups. I love how hard they laugh when Uncle Matt tickles them.

I love that Chris & Naomi have allowed me to be part of their childrens lives.

But most of all, I love being Auntie Emma.

Kindness

The movie date was planned with my cousin and one of my best friends. We were off to see the new Bad Moms movie (which is AWESOME by the way), anyway! We (my cousin Trina & I) arrived at the venue to meet Steph but parking was INSANE! Full of frantic families Christmas shopping searching for that perfect space, after going round 2 times we were about to give up and go to another car park when a really smiley older lady started to walk towards us.

She said that she was leaving and was parked at the back, so I spun around and nipped into her space as we left. Her kindness just filled mine and Trina’s hearts!

What a sweet thing to do and really lovely act of genuine kindness. 

So as we left the cinema, we decided to pay the kindness back. We looked at the cars that were driving round and spotted 2 ladies with a car full of little people that looked a bit frantic. We had found people in need, so Trina told them we were leaving and where we were parked and just like us a few hours before, they nipped in as we nipped out.

It was really nice to do something completely selfless for someone else. It got me thinking, why isn’t that normal? Why dont we do just random acts of kindness every know and again to brighten someones day? 

As Brits, we are bit reserved and not forthcoming, but why should we live up to our reputation? I have decided, as we are getting into the season of goodwill, I am going to start giving back and doing some little things for people.

If I put a smile on just 1 person’s face then I will be happy!

Love

Emma x

Home

I had a bit of a meltdown a few days ago. I felt lonely, 2nd best and generally not good enough.

I cried hard to my mum on the phone, silent cried at my desk and cried at my desk with a team mate. It was a bad day and the first one for a long time.

But do you know what made me feel better? 

Coming home to Matt. 

For the first time I didnt turn to food to cure my sadness, I didnt rant on social media. I just waited for 5pm.

I have seen the quote that home is in your arms, or something like that and I never understood that until that day.

Often we take for granted our relationships and loved ones who are always there for us. I know that no matter what Matt will always be there for me. 

He is the man that I wanted when you hear all the love songs as a teenager. I have got the love I have always imagined. I have someone that I not only fancy pants off but someone who is genuinely my best friend. The person I want to tell my happy and sad stories to. 

If I have no-one else I have him. 

So for all the teens out there that hear love songs, watch the teen movies and want a love like that. 

Its yours. 

It will come to you and when it does grab it with both hands. Love hard and love honestly. 

Sing With Me!

Ok, if you know me, then you will know that I love a singalong in the car and there is nothing that I love more than singing along to Chrismas tunes!!

Yup, I said the C word and I don’t care that its only October! 

This is what I LOVE about spotify – you can have a playlist for anything! So, I have spent the last few days creating a Christmas playlist, so as soon as I go on Annual leave on 29th November those Christmas Tunes will be blaring out my car stereo! I am off work for 4 days and every single day I have something Christmassy planned it, so it will be a great start to the festive season!

I hear you, what is on my playlist?! Well you can check it out for yourself – do you have spotify? Just open up this link and hit the follow button – I will add songs as I go along BUT if you can think of anything then hit up the comments below!

Let’s all have a big sing-a-long!

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